YOU HAVE THE RIGHT
TO BE SAFE AND HAPPY
You do not have to accept
abusive behavior from anyone ~
not your mate,
your date,
your parents,
any of your relatives
or any of your friends.
Abuse is unacceptable.
Millions of people
will be abused
at some time in their lives.
You need to know
how to recognize the abuser,
to recognize
the warning signs.
Anyone who finds themselves
in a situation
where these warning signs prevail,
is in critical danger.
You must call the nearest
Woman's Crisis Center
~ CRITICAL POSITIVE ACTION ~
or
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE ~ 1-800-799-7233
You must tell someone
what is happening,
people who care about you
and want to help you.
You will be provided with support
and informed
of all the personal safety options
that are always available
just for you
and victims like you.
~ CRITICAL POSITIVE ACTION ~
There are many ways
to break the cycle of violence
and identifying the warning signs
is the first most significant step.
You can preserve your sanity,
acquire the strength
to leave your abuser,
regain your self-esteem
and fashion a new, more
productive and happier life
for yourself and your children.
Here are signals
that can enable you to determine
whether or not your mate
or your date
is an actual abuser
or a potential abuser.
Be careful
and be ready to act,
if your mate or date
or any other person
displays any
of the following signs.
They are jealous of the time
you spend with friends,
family members
or your co-workers.
The exhibit controlling behavior
where they seek to control
your coming and going,
your money
and they insist
on helping you with
all your personal decisions.
They initiate isolation
by cutting you off
from your supportive resources
such as telephone pals,
your best friend
and your colleagues
in the workplace.
They blame others
for their problems
such as job difficulties,
unemployment
or family quarrels
and insist that
everything is your fault.
They build up hypersensitvity
by getting easily upset
by little annoyances
that are all normal parts
of daily life,
such as
being asked to work overtime,
criticism of any kind,
or being asked to help
with chores or baby care.
They show cruelty
to animals or children
such as being
cold and insensitive
to their pain and suffering
or teasing children and pets
in a unreasonable,
hurtful manner.
They initiate
so called playful use of force
during sex
such as throwing you down
and pinning you roughly
during sex,
or by initiating sex
while you are asleep
or demanding sex
when you are tired or sick
or simply not in the mood.
Verbal abuse is typical
when they say
cruel and hurtful things,
degrade and humiliate you,
wake you up to verbally abuse you
and will not let you go to sleep.
The Jekyll and Hyde personality
with impulsive, confusing mood swings
and unpredictable behavior
where they are so loving
and considerate,
and then, the next minute
they are suddenly angry
and castigating.
They may have
a past history of abuse
where they have hit others
but have a long list of excuses
to support their contention
that they had been
pushed over the edge
by their victim's
conduct and reactions.
Threats of violence
are red hot indicators
like when they say ~
I�m going to slap you!
I'm going to kill you!
I'm going to break you neck!
They may destroy objects
by striking, breaking
or smashing
your possessions,
throw objects at you
or near you and your children.
They may use force
during argument
by holding you down
or up against a wall,
pushing, shoving, slapping
or kicking.
Such violent intensity
can escalate to
choking, stabbing
or shooting.
If anyone touches you
in places
you do not want
to be touched
or attempts to
convince you
to do things
that you know are not right,
or that you feel are not right,
by offering you candy
or other gifts
or physical threats,
get away from them
immediately.
You have the right ~
you always have the right
to simply say
no.
Report these instances
to your parents
or a trusted teacher,
policeman or minister.
If help is not available there,
you must call the nearest
Woman's Crisis Shelter
~ CRITICAL POSITIVE ACTION ~
or
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE ~ 1-800-799-7233
You must tell someone
what is happening,
people who care about you
and want to help you.
You will be provided with support
and informed
of all the personal safety options
that are always available
just for you
and victims like you.
~ CRITICAL POSITIVE ACTION ~
Many abused persons
~ or potential candidates for abuse ~
do not realize they are being abused
until it is pointed out to them.
They have been brainwashed
into believing that abusive treatment
is what they deserve
or just the way things are.
Do not be misled
They will promise you
They pacify you
You cannot change them
You are a worthwhile human being
First and foremost,
Call the nearest
Woman's Crisis Shelter
or
TTY
~ CRITICAL POSITIVE ACTION ~
You will be provided with support
I urge everyone
We must
by the twisted rationale
of your abuser.
nor should you allow yourself
to be victimized
by subhuman mates and dates
or other individuals
who mindlessly
seek to impose it on you
for their own depraved satisfaction.
it will never happen again,
but do not believe it.
to keep you off guard
to keep you under control
between abusive episodes.
and they cannot change themselves
without intensive psychotherapy,
the success of which
is subject to serious question.
and you deserve to be treated
with respect and consideration.
escape the violent,
abusive,
destructive circumstances.
or
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE ~ 1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224
You must tell someone
what is happening,
people who care about you
and want to help you.
and informed
of all the personal safety options
that are always available
just for you
and victims like you.
~ CRITICAL POSITIVE ACTION ~
who agrees with
the previous commentary
to make their finest effort
to eradicate
the most subhuman
social aberration
that has ever
threatened our planet.
all of us
work together
to bring
an immediate
and unqualified stop
to
the mental,
the verbal
and
the physical abuse
of our most precious
women and children. Compiled from authoritative sources
paraphrased for emphasize
and enhanced by personal comment
to inform and to protect
the innocent.
